Don’t get married until you’re 25 years old.
Why? Because your brain is not fully developed until that age.
Why do you think that they send men off to war when they are 19? Because you don’t know any better about war and dying, you are gullible, and the armed services can still mold your brain into following orders. So, just like being a young soldier, you shouldn’t marry young for the same reason. You’re not playing with a full deck. Okay, I know that may sound mean, but the facts support me here.
Animal drives are based on biology, chemicals (hormones), instinct, synaptic firings (electrical, meaning nerve reactions), and reflex (autonomic, otherwise called your involuntary nervous system).
Human drives are related to your developed cognitive abilities. These go beyond reactionary measures and speak to how the person utilizes executive brain abilities. These executive abilities include using:
- Intent, not Reactionary
- Problem solving
- Decision making
- Delayed gratification
- Ability to delay a reaction
- Compartmentalization (the ability to defer an action until later)
- Analysis (the ability to figure out an outcome based on what you currently know, what is known about past occurrences, and the ability to predict a future outcome (an educated guess).
At age 25, your brain is matured and has full cognitive ability. Whether you choose to use that ability, that’s another story but at least you have it upstairs.
Sure, young love is exciting. It’s entirely fun to be free-spirited. That being said, marriage is an undertaking that presumes maturity for it to work long-term. Yes, there are exceptions to the rule and some people mature faster than others. For the rest of you, it is wise to let your brain mature fully to better your odds of a lasting marriage.
According to the National Center for Health Statistics, if you wait until after the age of 25 to get married, your chances of staying married more than double! The old “50 percent of marriages end in divorce” statistic is literally cut in half (to 25%) if you just wait a while longer to take the plunge.
If you choose to disregard this notice, then please pay close attention to the other sections in my ‘Marrying Men’ Chapter of my book.
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